The act never lasts and I hate myself for tolerating him but the alternative is worse. I just ended a 5 year abusive relationship. Let me help get you there, NOW, before you get even more stuck. All I do is just look at her pictures and messages and cry all the time. . First on and off dating then he moved in with me (purely a roommate situation with some benefits for a little while). He is so hard to tolerate. He thinks it’s the stress and worries he is going through that are causing him to stop expressing himself to me. Oh Ella, I am so sorry that you are going through this. But if he doesn’t say it back, it doesn’t have to be the end. Over the years I have worked with hundreds of people, like you, to help make serious change in their lives. Block him on your phone, disconnect on social media, stay away from places where you know he will be. Hi, i’m 16 yo and i’m a girl who fell in love with her best guy friend. If I tell him first, he does say “you too”…That’s the most I get from him… It does bother me sometimes that he doesn’t ever tell me and I found this discussion by googling…”children that never say I love you”… Ha! That's not right, you SHOULD be worried now. Again, I am so sorry for your pain. I started crying and crying, it was yesterday. How do I mentally distance myself from him while remaining sane? I knew he was leaving and I still couldn’t break this crazy cycle. That's not right, you SHOULD be worried now. You have left him before so you CAN do it again, and survive. We both really used to be with each other every time during our college days, she used to hang out with me on initial days and then after she found her girls gang and she be around there all the time, now whenever I used to ask her why she does not meet she gave me reason that she was sexually assulted and I was like feeling so bad for her, but the point is, as a guy I was the firt one to know this thing, and I was the first one to consider the fact that she was scared meeting me every time, she tried 2-3 times but whenever I used to make plan or invite she always used to deny me. I should have ran away the moment he said it. It’s the same with your man. If you have lists in front of you, lists that can remind you of why you have to break up with this person, you will be able to stay steadfast in your determination to get it done! To be really honest, I was and still I am in love with someone who is my best female friend, but the problem is I do feel emotions for her, I do have feelings for her but she does not have for me, she just sees me as just a friend. Perhaps he no longer makes an effort to spend time with you. Do you think that if you just do this ONE thing he will start loving you again? But if he doesn’t say it back, it doesn’t have to be the end. So take this time and mourn – it is sad. I’ve been with this guy for 4 years, he has cheated on me 3 times including now and always he would choose the other girls over me. I would love to talk to you more about this. My self-esteem shattered into pieces. If he used to say it often but doesn’t say anymore, it may be a wise to suspect that he has had a change of heart. I know that right now you feel like you might never love again but putting yourself back out there doesn’t mean you have to fall in love. Last night he went to see a girl I know he has a past with. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. It’s hurts so much despite after the betrayal and hurt he’s done to me, I still love him. I feel the same way, Jesse. He’s in a relationship and I don’t see that ending. Why can’t he let me share his pain? He said he loves the passion between us lately, but he is a little confused now on whether he really loves me or not, because he doesn’t understand why he doesn’t say "I love you" anymore. Someone who can't say "I love you" may have a fear of being rejected when they express their feelings. I said it a few weeks ago and I’m still waiting! You will be in pain for a while but then you will start to feel better. This is the worst possibilities, though. Now someone else is pregnant. I’ve already told him when i confessed, that it really hurts me when he ignores me, i even told him that i cried… but he was a little bit feelingless which hurted me more. I fell in love with a horrible man, tried to make him love me for a year…fell pregnant. What if he decides he wants kids, and I don’t want anymore kids. All my best, Mitzi. Same But by that time he had traveled and he claims he loves me so much , we dated for about 2 weeks and he says he can’t do a distant relationship, he needs to have access to his woman blablabla, it really hurts me and it’s so hard for me to let. Without understanding them, you won’t be able to let him go. It does sound like you should let go of him because he doesn’t deserve you! Your email address will not be published. I plan to make those lists tonight but fear I will still not love myself enough to totally go no contact. It will make the process way easier! . So I play nice, bur playing nice leaves my heart open when he’s being decent. It's just that there aren't the gestures, experiences, and situations available for him to really show it. I am completely devastated. I am a NYC based Certified Life Coach and mental health advocate. Please help let him go, I hardly eat, he is the first thing I think of when I open my eyes, last thing I think of when I close my eyes. …worst mistake. Trust that he does love you – … The best place to start is no contact. He left without even saying goodbye. It doesn’t help that he keeps reminding me how undesirable I am. Guys can be really thick – what do you think? I am deeply in love with her, I never imagined her changing like that. We get along extremely well, we have fun together and we call each other best friends. It all comes down to a strong sense of self and self-esteem…. I always assume however he leaves it open to assume. In the morning I number kept on calling since last night so I saved the number on my phone and answered, he took the phone from me, I went out to call the girl, she told me everything I went back inside to put the girl on loud speaker, he took the phone and told me that I should leave, I got what I wanted. He started facebooking my family but I stay far away… I don’t know what to do.. Harris, I am so sorry your heart is broken. At night we tried having sex but because I think I have a medical condition I was having this burning sensation, I couldn’t bare it. I was devastated, but I blocked him and went on with my life (because he really did me a favor and set me free). But in the corners of my mind, I know intellectually it won’t happen. 3. It had been 15 years of me trying to convince him I could be all he needed: I workout, got my tubes untied so I could have his kids, I cooked more, sexed more and did all I could. ©Copyright 2019 Great Love. Before you begin any life changing process you must ask yourself how determined you are to actually do it. Do your part and show him the feelings and experiences you both once loved are right around the corner. A client of mine was in a horrible relationship, one that made her feel horrible about herself. And then one day, after another break up, she was invited to a dance party. You’ve said it once. Or when you are going to bed he just rolls over and turns off the light without kissing you. Still in a relationship where my happiness and values are not concerned but still can’t let go of him..its been 05 years. Noooo!!!!.. SPECIAL I Love Mom Toblerone bars. My husband left me after a tragic home fire. Every time I try to cut him out of MY life (not our kids) he makes me regret it. And the main problem is I don’t really want to force her for loving me back but the thing is My feelings are valid for her, because I have my life as well and I really want her to accept the fact that there should be love for me as well. And every day she debases herself by doing his bidding and, surprise, he still doesn’t love her. Putting yourself back out there means that you get dressed up and flirt and date and have a lot of fun. I tried co parenting with him he refused so I simply stopped allowing myself to be used by him. Breaking up SUCKS but I can promise you that it will be better on the other side. It’s time I would say. It never loses its value and meaning. I want to wake up tomorrow back in 2010 to start over. We’d share only 1 night every couple of weeks. That if they break up with this person they will be alone forever! Recently I’ve stopped dating people, he’s seen me go through two relationships and I’ve seen him through 3 since our friendship began. I wanted him so bad and hoped a miracle would happened. You shouldn't have a boyfriend at the end of that conversation. This is not like ignoring you. If your boyfriend acts distant, ignores you, doesn’t communicate, and avoids you while accusing you of doing these exact things, he is signaling you that he wants out. No no no, you need to talk to him right now and ASK him what the problem is. Once you have made your lists, refer to them often. The fact that I love him has scared him away. It’s easy to say, “I love you,” but true love is demonstrated in action. Communication is the best way to make a relationship work! There she found a room mate who she says is a good friend of her. Email me at, or click, Click to share on Twitter (Opens in new window), Click to share on Facebook (Opens in new window). I think she have found a substitute of me in that person. You will be just fine. To make a very long story short, we split in august, he told me he wanted to start seeing other people. My ex was abusive and moves like a narcissist… I’m not saying he is one but if it walks talks quacks like a duck… Well I left him a year ago. There is nothing worse. Let her go. He also says he doesn’t want us to loose the friendship we shared for 4 years But he can’t do the distant relationship. Email me at and let’s talk! PS: he showed signs of love, like staring at me, getting jealous about other guys, everyone thought we were a thing… that what confuses me the most. HE STOPS COMMUNICATING . , It’s 5am in the morning and yet again I’ve lost sleep over my current partner. Yet we still remained in touch. Thank you so much for your comment! We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. , Hi. But my gut tells me she’s not the one for me .? Stella said: “he said it always feels right when we are together but when he walks out the door, he forgets.” Cruel words but the truth does set you free. It’s been less than one year that i’ve known him, he is really nice, kind, funny… he was just perfect. It never failed, I’d be fine to the point where I’d have days that I was ok and not thinking about him much, then one day I’d be thinking about him so hard, missing him, and wishing that he could feel my soul somehow thru the universe, and every single time this happened, he would call me that very day. You CAN DO IT! He needs to know that you won't laugh at him or dismiss him or reject him when he finally does say "I love you!" I spoke to him after a few days as if I didn’t try to break up with him. I know that we all think that we need “closure” at the end of a relationship, that final conversation where everyone gets to say what they want to say and you understand each other and walk away as friends. 9. Let me know if I can help in any way. Reconnecting with an old love is something very special but it can be confusing, especially is he is already in a relationship. You want them to come back and for him to love you and that all will be fine. Yet I cannot imagine her saying all this to me, as just a month ago. I’ve never felt so good about myself. 8. 3. He is being very clear that he can’t be in a relationship with someone who lives so far away. I am left really hurt but broke it off with him because i knew deep inside me this relationship is toxic reading this article gave me some type of hope it just sucks that i am missing somebody who continually hurt me over and over again i hope this is just a phase and i really get over him . I do not eat, sleep or work properly. The human heart is deceiving, who can really know, not even yourself. Her father did not approve of my proposal. I went to his place to find out what’s happening, he ignored my calls,I went around the open window to tell him to open up and he did. I’m so confused . Today we finally realized so he says a communication problem. He is enthusiastic about the relationship and wants you to know how he feels about you. You may find yourself moving forward and then falling back into your old patterns. Illusion and hope is really what stops you from progressing in loving, real relationships. Good luck! This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love. Cuz I really love this dude. You will be okay! Worse part of it in one of the photos he wore the matching T-shirt we both had. Constantly has different woman and overnjght company right in my facs. If he used to say it often but doesn’t say anymore, it may be a wise to suspect that he has had a change of heart. Thanks for sharing. And as per her, its over. I'm not saying that something is for sure wrong if he doesnt say "I love you" back, but there is a higher chance that he could be involved with another girl or he just isn't interested anymore. Is that his issue or is it something else? Please do I keep begging him to give us a try or what? I feel like I am going through depression, I met this nice guy and maybe everything was moving to fast one thing led to one and he started acting strange not picking my calls ,not replying ,no effort at all he says he is going through some certain things.. so why am I his girlfriend? Help plz !!! So l broke off things with my boyfriend because l know he doesn’t love me. Time is a great healer and with some time you will get stronger and be ready to take on this challenging task. All my best, Mitzi, The same with me and till now idk what to do or what to decide, It seems like you are really stuck in a rut with your person. She is in my mind all the time. How do I get over this situation? He was sweet and apologetic and we had this great connection (or at least what I thought). I’ve had talks with him he doesn’t express his emotions no more I say I love you in Spanish and he just says same he leaves me alone for along timeand makes hella excuses then I’ve talked with him that he’s being dry I say why he doesn’t say I love you the all he said is ily. I am really scared l do not want to be alone and lm afraid tomorrow morning his going to text and l am going to reply and repeat the cycle. Everything else is coming out of the desires of flesh and is in the passing form. I felt relaxed, because he didn’t ignore me or something so that’s a good sign. Here Are 3 Reasons He Never Says "I Love You… All she have in her mind are negative thoughts and frustration so she don’t think that we would be happy with each other and she don’t look forward to see me in her life. Perhaps a plan for the future would be helpful for you! I do not know what to do. What is wrong with men that they let go of women who love them? Or perhaps you wonder how could he not love you because you know you are awesome? Embrace it! I’m currently facing the reality that my spouse has been falling out of love with me for years. Hell he might even be cheating on you. I am so sorry. If it’s the distance can you guys fix that? Move on. But, most of the time, it’s true. All types of other men would find me attractive but i only wanted him. Those things in your gut that are telling you that this relationship is wrong. Anyway, I am clearly and obviously madly in love with him. I’ve never felt so good about myself. He apologized, of course, and soon we were in a conversation. I’m happy I’m having a baby but shattered that it’s with a man who will never love me or my baby. One voice told me that he loves you back, another one told me that even if he doesn’t, he’ll be by your side… i finally said it, the truth is he doesn’t love me back. You can do it! We truly believe that love is in what you do, not always in what you say. He doesn't love you anymore, if he's apologizing for not saying it. ?was that a game for 3,years just or he did really love me but he couldn’t do anything for our love ???? I know how to text and talk in a way that elicits responses I want to hear but deep down I know he doesn’t really mean them. I relied on her completely for emotional support. And they often don’t even know how they feel so that makes it even harder. I know that after 2 days or 3, i’ll unblock him and apologize to him for that. These people have succeeded at, among other things, restoring the love in their relationships, getting to know themselves again and finding their place in the world. I felt like I could move in but I ended up begging and I am still begging him and I just want this feelings to go. Its really hard to accept that a person out there enjoys abusing you and seeing u sad.. how do l move past mind and soul is wrecked? Do what you can to protect your baby. He cheated on me before my son was born. Read some of my other blogs about letting go. I joke that I am a housewife with none of the wife benefits (no sex, affection other than a hug here and there, no living off his paycheck, etc). I couldn’t sleep all night. I would love to process this with you. One of the biggest signs he doesn’t love you anymore is a lack of communication. Because you do know that it is doing nothing good for you. Those were his words. And I think he is seeing someone else it looks like it and it gives me so much pain I feel like I wasn’t good enough and I hate myself and on top of that a lot of bad things happen in my life lately so much sorrow I feel like im gonna break and I want to keep hoping although I am seeing someone else who is much nicer to me but I kinda friendzoned him because i’m still stuck on my ex and I am so crushed. After you have made those lists, email me at and lets have a free session to see if we can move you forward! We will never work together he says. 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